I Hate Women's Fashions

Recently I noticed that my sister was wearing clothes that made her underwear visible. Our society seems to have an epidemic of visible underwear, and I don't like it. I asked her why she was wearing it, and she told me that it's nearly impossible to find anything that looks feminine that doesn't reveal underwear. I found her answer upsetting, because it shows what a sad state we're in as far as fashion goes.

Personally, I've always had a hard time respecting girls who let their underwear show. I'm a guy, so it's hard not to look at it. Even visible skin between the shirt and pants is attention-grabbing and inspires inappropriate thoughts in me. Why is it that most girls allow that stuff to show? Perhaps a better question would be why there aren't any better clothes out there for our sisters to wear. Why must they sacrifice respectability in order to meet the criterion of femininity?

This issue is only supports my belief that American society is destroying the truly beautiful women. When I see movies that take place in the old days I feel like it would've been so much easier for me to find a wife back then. In those days women wore long dresses, so there wasn't a modesty problem like there is today. Society taught that women were to be respectable. I'm sure someone would argue that it was a worse time, because society didn't allow women to have as many rights back then. Still, I'd imagine that most women want to be loved and respected. Perhaps the old-fashioned values of yesteryear meant that a man was more likely to find a woman he could love and respect. Women like that are certainly harder to find these days.

I don't want to be preoccupied with sexual thoughts anytime I'm around a woman. I want to be focused on her virtues and inner beauty. Honestly, the women I've known throughout my life have never seemed more beautiful to me than when they were dressed up in winter clothes. Perhaps it's just a personal preference. Perhaps I'm more focused on inner beauty when a woman is bundled up. All I know is that I love the cold months for the beauty they bring out in women. While my carnal side enjoys seeing the women during the warm months, it's equally unenjoyable because of the constant struggle it brings with it.

I hate the idea that guys are looking at my sister's underwear. She's better than that. Unfortunately, she's becoming an adult, and I can't stop her from wearing what she wants to wear. I can only pray that God will convict her on the issue. I also hope that the tide will turn toward modest fashions. Women shouldn't be forced to give up their modesty to fit in. They should know that God gave every one of them beauty, and that revealing clothing doesn't exhibit it, but rather suppresses it.

Are Holidays Really Holidays Anymore?

The older I get the less excited I get about certain things. Take holidays, for instance. Yesterday was Thanksgiving. I had a nice meal with my family and we generally had a good day. Still, it didn't feel like we really got into the spirit of the holiday and focused on what we were thankful for. We had a brief mention of it at the table, but in general it seemed like it was just a day to take off work and have some turkey.

The word "holiday" comes from "holy day." The purpose of holy days being set aside is to give us the opportunity to focus our minds on something bigger than day-to-day life. We're supposed to remember things like the sacrifices made by people before us or the love God has shown to humanity. We're supposed to reflect on the fact that our lives are all shaped by things beyond what we can see and when we return to the mundane we should have a renewed sense of perspective.

Sadly, I know that isn't the case for me enough. Like so many others, I think more about the rituals surrounding the holidays and forget about their true meaning. What if we took away the turkey, the football and the huge family get-togethers at Thanksgiving and just discussed with some close loved ones what we were thankful for? Wouldn't that be more likely to help us achieve that renewed sense of perspective? Wouldn't it eliminate the stress and help us accomplish what we intended with the whole setting aside a day thing?

Christmas is the next big holiday approaching. I already suggested the idea of no one exchanging gifts this year to my mother, and she didn't seem totally opposed to the idea. Still, we'll probably end up getting caught up in the stress of putting up decorations, buying gifts and wishing our loved ones a Merry Christmas that we'll lose focus on the true meaning just like we always do. Christmas doesn't feel like Christmas to me anymore. It feels like a ritual. If I'm not focusing on my Savior's birth, is there even any point to me celebrating Christmas? It's not as if the Bible tells us we have to celebrate Christmas. We just do it because it was a tradition started by the church. If we can focus on Jesus and gain a renewed sense of perspective at Christmas time, that's good. If we're only observing it because it's a fun tradition though, is that truly pleasing to God?

Holidays can be fun. Some of my best memories are from holidays. I just think more people (myself included) need to remember that they aren't just designated celebration days. They have a purpose. Keeping those purposes in mind would be for the better in all our lives.